tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774711327647583278.post1485552795108508863..comments2024-01-24T08:02:32.708-05:00Comments on The Queen and King: Fate Be Changed, Look Inside. Mend the Bond Torn by Pride.Gretel Ellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12399915088073772365noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774711327647583278.post-24824953078539514202014-03-31T22:07:48.354-04:002014-03-31T22:07:48.354-04:00:) <3:) <3Gretel Ellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12399915088073772365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774711327647583278.post-19633215218230841272014-03-31T12:05:14.975-04:002014-03-31T12:05:14.975-04:00"...every relationship takes two." IMO, ..."...every relationship takes two." IMO, the inherent assumption in this statement is one of Equality. In the relationship between Child and Parent, there is a clear Power Differential rendering the Parent far more powerful than the Child-even when the Child themselves becomes an Adult in the world of their CB "Parents."<br />Consequently, the AC (Adult Child) will remain (almost) consistently less creditable, less likely to be afforded the benefit of the doubt by others: The Slime and Malign Campaign becomes that much more an effective CB (Cluster B) Tool wielded by the CB "Parent." The CB "Parent" and others are not reticent to use this *very* statement in response to the AC. No matter how old you become, your CB "Parent" will always be older and more powerful in the relationship and in society at large. The CB refuses to allow their Child to be treated and viewed as an Adult when the AC becomes such in part because it would require relinquishing their Emotional (and sometimes, practical) Club of Power "over" their "Child." As I mentioned in an earlier comment, they get everything exactly backwards: As Children we're treated as Adults and as Adults we're treated as Children. (Aiye!!!)<br />"It takes two" and "He/She's your Father/Mother" are common responses to the AC's reality. One needs to be very, very certain of their own mind, experiences and reality as well as very discerning regarding with whom you choose to share your experiences.<br />It doesn't hurt to develop a Rhino hide either! ;) <br />Invalidation and unexamined cultural mores run rampant IMO and experiences. Alice Miller in one of her publications examines the transformation of the relationship that takes place between a Mother and her Adult Child when the AC confronts the Mother regarding the relationship. The Mother is very angry, hurt etc.-of course-but engages in a very rigorous self-examination which unfolds over time and confirms her AC's experiences etc. As a result, their relationship is repaired, restored and deepened. The mother's ability to engage in introspection alone IMO rules out a CB genesis for the difficulties in their relationship: Sounds very much like "Brave." <br />Changing the future, taking control of your own life and your family by protecting them from known threats is a truly courageous decision. I'm cheering you on-wildly!!!<br />I'm also becoming redundant, but another great Post and Thank You.<br />TWTundra Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12262066568878267648noreply@blogger.com