tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774711327647583278.post1634332535834665739..comments2024-01-24T08:02:32.708-05:00Comments on The Queen and King: Blaming Parents for Our PastGretel Ellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12399915088073772365noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774711327647583278.post-71587821713494647752011-12-24T10:58:38.412-05:002011-12-24T10:58:38.412-05:00Excellent points-- well put. Thank you so very muc...Excellent points-- well put. Thank you so very much for the insight and perspective.Gretel Ellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12399915088073772365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774711327647583278.post-53866764692984976052011-12-16T00:08:00.081-05:002011-12-16T00:08:00.081-05:00Forgiveness is part of the grieving process and co...Forgiveness is part of the grieving process and comes naturally when as a result of recovery work. I feel all this talk about forgiveness can hinder the full expression of emotions that needs to be out in order to recover. Please don't do your self a diservice by forgiving prematurely and slowing your recovery. you can be respectful, courteous without forgiving. Its actually not a paradox. forgiving as an act of will doesn't work. Alice Miller, a famous psychotherapist talks a lot about this if anyone is really looking to get knee deep into the reasoning.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774711327647583278.post-25034639056064897542011-01-18T20:51:36.336-05:002011-01-18T20:51:36.336-05:00Thank you for taking the time to comment and your ...Thank you for taking the time to comment and your support. What does not kill us, makes us stronger... and I am stronger for what I experienced :)Gretel Ellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12399915088073772365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774711327647583278.post-19893919941742994462011-01-18T14:48:00.893-05:002011-01-18T14:48:00.893-05:00Your parents need to grow a heart and a brain. And...Your parents need to grow a heart and a brain. And stop clinging to the notion you had to be little adults. <br /><br />I feel sorry for you. And wish you didn't have to go through all that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774711327647583278.post-70611932413082153372010-12-22T21:33:46.381-05:002010-12-22T21:33:46.381-05:00I agree that they are trying to wash their hands o...I agree that they are trying to wash their hands of the responsibility-- and they'd rather think about how they've been wronged and point fingers. The attention needs to be on them rather than on others, being so narcissistic. Keep on trying to understanding and find peace in your past-- believe in yourself and know you are not the 'stupid, self-destructive piece of trash' that she tries to paint you to be. For yourself, love yourself by leaving the past and blossoming into the present / future. Above all, surround yourself with people who you trust, value you, and are positive / happy people. Hang in there! HUGS!Gretel Ellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12399915088073772365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774711327647583278.post-46301957252251169742010-12-22T21:21:24.263-05:002010-12-22T21:21:24.263-05:00OMG this is raw..i feel like crying because this i...OMG this is raw..i feel like crying because this is EXACTLY the way, the almost verbatim words that my mom and family would say to me and my brothers..that were adults now and we're responsible for ourselves...and i know what this is..when your and my parents say that, theyre attempting to wash their hands off of their responsibility in making your brother how he is because if they stopped and thought about how they treated him, they wouldn't be able to deal with the guilt, they wouldn't be able to sleep at night. this stuff pisses me off!! <br /> my mother who i suspect is a narcissist, washes her hands of everything shes ever done to me, and makes my whole family look at me like a stupid, self-destructive piece of trash...im only here by the grace of God, not her..<br /> i know that the best remedy is to forgive and try to move on but..its SOOO hard!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774711327647583278.post-60679867998409595942009-03-16T15:46:00.000-04:002009-03-16T15:46:00.000-04:00Agreed :)Agreed :)Gretel Ellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12399915088073772365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774711327647583278.post-36347569783420790862009-02-16T18:11:00.000-05:002009-02-16T18:11:00.000-05:00Hansel and Gretel led into the woods and abandoned...Hansel and Gretel led into the woods and abandoned by their parents.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com