tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774711327647583278.post5415813294721895510..comments2024-01-24T08:02:32.708-05:00Comments on The Queen and King: Adult Children of Parental Alienation SyndromeGretel Ellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12399915088073772365noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774711327647583278.post-47905653194227733932016-12-08T16:26:16.570-05:002016-12-08T16:26:16.570-05:00Hi,
This is great. I can't believe I hadn'...Hi,<br />This is great. I can't believe I hadn't found this earlier. My father was diagnosed NPD and my mother... has anger issues. Both of my parents alienated me against each other.<br /><br />My mother lied to me and told me my dad molested me and my sisters and I just didn't remember it. She had me take this information public etc. I ruined his life.<br /><br />Growing up, my dad would sneak into my room at night and whisper (when he thought I was asleep) terrible things about my mother to me. He said she didn't love me and was a very sick woman who could not be saved. <br /><br />They divorced when I was 9, but they pitted me against one another for twenty years. I just now realized all of this stuff. My dad won't acknowledge his role, but my mother apologized. I do not know where to go from here. <br /><br />I no longer have contact with either, but it is sad. I have trouble trusting myself to say nothing of trusting others. <br /><br />I bought the Ties That Bind book, but didn't really see it as that helpful. Having both parents pit you against the other in such public and legal and destructive ways is not something I usually come across. <br /><br />I'm seeing a therapist and my life is much better now. I'm no longer depressed for the first time and the pereptual feeling of guilt and doom is slowly receding, but is there anything else I can do? It's so hard. <br />Please email me if you can. BrucePeterson5000@gmail.com Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774711327647583278.post-3983107062090421282015-09-29T07:28:10.256-04:002015-09-29T07:28:10.256-04:00http://iloveandneedmydaughter.blogspot.in/2013/09/...http://iloveandneedmydaughter.blogspot.in/2013/09/parental-alienation-syndrome-hostile.htmlandersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14625287413297458232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774711327647583278.post-36432448669020187022014-03-25T15:50:43.420-04:002014-03-25T15:50:43.420-04:00PAS absolutely *is* abuse. I was told repeatedly b...PAS absolutely *is* abuse. I was told repeatedly by my CB "mother," "You're either WITH ME or AGAINST me!" I realize she engaged in PAS from my earliest memories. I was older than you were at the time of my parent's divorce, but I had to fight to see my father every Sun. for a few hrs. and then come back to her place and endure a grueling interrogation and unbridled rage. She was so petty she wouldn't even "allow" him to come to the house to pick me up or drop me off regardless of the weather.<br />Her insistence on forcing me to "CHOOSE!" ultimately was her undoing. Terminating the relationship with her later was due in no small part to her PAS and inability to see beyond her own selfish agenda. Of course my decision to NC as an adult was "explained" by spitting out to others, "She's JUST LIKE her FAAATTHER!" Um, no. I'm just like...me. She never was able to conceive of or treat me as an autonomous human being in my own right.<br />I can not find the words to express how strongly I feel about "parents" who engage in PAS and the pain they inflict willfully on their kids-whom they profess to "love."<br />TW Tundra Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12262066568878267648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774711327647583278.post-37325568332196281562009-07-31T07:56:25.793-04:002009-07-31T07:56:25.793-04:00EXCELLENT points: "Kids don't hate. They ...EXCELLENT points: "Kids don't hate. They have to be taught to hate. Principles of love and forgiveness come naturally to a child, especially with their Mom and Dad." <br /><br />And I know first hand how diligently my parents tried to teach me to hate the other parent-- all the way up until adulthood. It's very sad, damaging, and confusing to say the least as your parents should be ones the child can trust, not second guess, and be rely on to be a role model. When a parent feeds the child with all sorts of lies, manipulations, brain-washing, and hate, the parent has truly created a situation that can take decades to sort out and with which to come to terms. <br /><br />I wish you peace and love-- and I pray your children find their way back to you. My love goes out to you.Gretel Ellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12399915088073772365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774711327647583278.post-83286685935660589242009-07-30T23:47:09.552-04:002009-07-30T23:47:09.552-04:00it's a reality. it's emotional and mental ...it's a reality. it's emotional and mental abuse of the worst kind to children. i see my children now who have been completely indoctrinated to hate and invalidate my existence in their lives. The obsessed alienating parent is just very cruel and we pray for all of them everyday and every night. it seems like evil at work.<br /><br />Kids don't hate. they have to be taught to hate. principles of love and forgiveness come naturally to a child. especially with their Mom and Dad.<br />Justice and healing and Precedential Favor is all over our case. <br />Be brave and courageous and let your love for your children keep you running this race for them. Pray without ceasing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774711327647583278.post-88664780787930924922009-07-30T15:32:56.598-04:002009-07-30T15:32:56.598-04:00Thank you Louise : ) Would love to hear your input...Thank you Louise : ) Would love to hear your input, thoughts, and experiences when you get the chance. <br /><br />Robert-- I can't believe that groups exist that reject the existence of PAS! When I discovered this myself, I was amazed, as I know first hand what PAS is and the damage it can do. This topic is another blog post for sure :) I pray for you and your daughter... I hope your relationship is able to blossom again. <br /><br />And thank you "anonymous" for the Warshak guide. I will look into it. Cheers!Gretel Ellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12399915088073772365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774711327647583278.post-78055827845970047082009-07-30T10:48:45.187-04:002009-07-30T10:48:45.187-04:00The classic guide to understanding, preventing, an...The classic guide to understanding, preventing, and overcoming parental alienation is "Divorce Poison: Protecting the Parent-Child Bond From a Vindictive Ex," written by Dr. Richard Warshak and published by HarperCollins. Loads of tips for managing this type of abuse.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774711327647583278.post-64461335908638069372009-07-30T10:43:39.105-04:002009-07-30T10:43:39.105-04:00Thank you for sharing this. Amazing isn't it t...Thank you for sharing this. Amazing isn't it that groups exist that advocate for children that reject the existence of PAS? Justice for Children is one of them and one that took my precious daughter many years ago and for the past eighteen years she has not even been able to pick up a telephone and speak with me.<br /><br />I applaud your survival!<br />Robert GartnerAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774711327647583278.post-76450131984263528262009-07-30T06:58:15.921-04:002009-07-30T06:58:15.921-04:00WOW! I just ame aross your blog for the first time...WOW! I just ame aross your blog for the first time today and need to really get into it. On the surface I want to say KUDOS!! For speaking out!!<br /><br />LouiseLouisehttp://www.disgustedwiththesystem.blogspot.omnoreply@blogger.com