tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774711327647583278.post6779639616425157102..comments2024-01-24T08:02:32.708-05:00Comments on The Queen and King: My God, She's Only a BABY! (2007 - 2008)Gretel Ellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12399915088073772365noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774711327647583278.post-22455087648522651102016-04-26T14:43:13.255-04:002016-04-26T14:43:13.255-04:00A parental aunt/god mother had this kind of disord...A parental aunt/god mother had this kind of disorder. Growing up, my dad had always sent me to her to spend summer vacations with...and I was subjected to so much anger/hurt/abuse from her from such a tender age. I fully cut her off my life after my teen years, except for a single visit right after I got married. I saw she was the same mean and angry person even with that hour-long visit that I vowed then and there that I chose not to have anything to do with her ever again. My husband, who didnt know the extent of her character asked me to move on/forgive her as its not healthy to have grudges on anyone. I told him I have forgiven her, but I will never have anything to do with her ever again to spare me..and our child..any negativity brought on by her behaviour.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774711327647583278.post-59603039534338367202014-05-10T01:02:14.444-04:002014-05-10T01:02:14.444-04:00No worries-- my husband and I cut contact with my ...No worries-- my husband and I cut contact with my Dad and step-mother shortly after these episodes. There is no way that I would expose my child to that narcissism and toxic behavior. My husband and I haven't had any contact with my Dad / step-mother since 2008 http://thequeenandking.blogspot.com/2009/02/holidays-2008.html and the estrangement with my mother started before my child was born (estrangement started in 2004, child born 2007). Thanks for the concern and the comment-- much appreciated :) Gretel Ellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12399915088073772365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774711327647583278.post-26514372452503544252014-04-26T04:28:26.776-04:002014-04-26T04:28:26.776-04:00I think you just disown your dad, mom, step-mom. I...I think you just disown your dad, mom, step-mom. It will save you, your husband and daughter from a life-long of emotional hurt. Compassion for a Narcissistic even when he is your own father should never come at the cost of people who truly LOVE you and who deserve your unconditional LOVE (your baby). Stop try to play a people pleaser and TAKE A BOLD AND UNWAVERING STAND.<br /><br />source - my own experience with both BPD and NPD family membersAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774711327647583278.post-59956522897876214012014-03-22T19:42:33.423-04:002014-03-22T19:42:33.423-04:00I felt a frantic, very frantic, need to get my chi...I felt a frantic, very frantic, need to get my child away from that dysfunction and toxicity. And I did. There are so many folks who are tied to their BPD / NPD parents because they are simply their *parents*. They feel that they 'owe* them or that they must *honor* them so they end up continuing to take the abuse AND NOW subjecting their own children to the abuse. I am very grateful that I never felt the need to owe or honor my parents despite their unacceptable and abusive behavior. I also feel that just because they are your parents doesn't give them any right to access to your children. Further, I am a firm believer that if your parents are a KNOWN DANGER then why expose your children to them!?? Your children should be protected from the *known danger*... and I know you absolutely concur :) Gretel Ellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12399915088073772365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774711327647583278.post-13253240439892618182014-03-22T18:39:39.971-04:002014-03-22T18:39:39.971-04:00Yk, there are two major regrets I see with AC'...Yk, there are two major regrets I see with AC's (Adult Children) in my very unscientific, self-selected "sample" :) They're not in any order:<br />-What took me so long to catch on?<br />-Why did I expose my kid(s) to my CB Parent(s)?/Why did I push the relationship when it was clear the CB(s) didn't make any real effort?<br /><br />We're just thrilled with our kids! You'd think the CBs would at least make a genuine effort to get to know them. Nope: Not unless they can use them as props to their stage.<br />And we don't know what we don't know. Once we do, it's down to decision-making time. Another gut-wrenching situation until the CBs do something so absolutely outrageous, they finally succeed in pulling off our blinders-for good.<br />And for the good of our entire family.<br />TW Tundra Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12262066568878267648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774711327647583278.post-44190463985483916422012-12-21T10:07:30.811-05:002012-12-21T10:07:30.811-05:00Thanks so much for the comment and vote of confide...Thanks so much for the comment and vote of confidence :) I appreciate them both so much. Have a happy holiday season too <3 Gretel Ellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12399915088073772365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774711327647583278.post-7217091615641630432012-11-29T15:05:23.424-05:002012-11-29T15:05:23.424-05:00Hi Gretel! I hope you have a wonderful, warm, cozy...Hi Gretel! I hope you have a wonderful, warm, cozy, drama-free holiday experience this year. Your father can't accept that there is more than one way to parent. Claiming that he's insulted because you don't take 100% of his advice is ridiculous. I think you and your child are better off with no contact, given the situation. DivorcedandLovingItnoreply@blogger.com